when one or both of us don't recognize our problem. I once watched an indonesian movie called noktah merah pernikahan and it kinda represents my first sentence (I do recommend the movie).

the husband avoids discussing their problem and tends to run away while the wife does everything to solve even scheduling a meeting with a marriage consultant. besides their top-notch acting, I feel like I'd stress out so much being the only person who cares to fix everything and having a partner who always thinks the relationship is doing good.