as i pointed out in my previous reply, i don't think it's possible to say one is more realistic than the other. we simply don't, and never will, know lol. it's all...fiction...it's make believe...and that's the fun in it. i have my opinions and my preferences of course, and everyone views these dynamics from a different angle that makes more sense to them. but calling one of them more realistic is unrealistic. I hope that makes sense haha. if you're asking about my own personal thoughts, i'd be happy to answer of course. i love yapping about fics lol